25. What’s Up – 4 Non Blondes 1992
I realized quickly
when I knew I should
That the world was made up of this brotherhood of man
For whatever
that means
When I was 25 I was still trying to prove my independence and
figure out what my identity was. By the time I turned 35 I was happily settled
into a relationship and was earning more cash than my man, but not feeling as
though he had to lift his game and earn as much as me (compare to Post
3).
This got me thinking that, maybe,
the mad drive a fair proportion of women have to prove themselves is all self-inflicted.
Additionally, maybe this pursuit of proving themselves is counter productive when
it comes to relationships, because at some stage you have to cease looking out
for just yourself and start looking out for others in order to have a healthy
relationship.
Then, as a gender, we further confuse
sex relations when it comes to etiquette. We live in an era when males don’t
know if they’re expected to open doors for us or not. Their confusion is totally
our fault because we haven’t come up with a consensus as to if we want the
doors opened for us or not. Some of us like it and see it as an act of chivalry.
Others see it as condescending.
Some years back when I was in my
first job out of high school I was most definitely in the latter camp. The poor
males that worked in the same building as me would step to the side of the elevator
to let me out before exiting the elevator themselves. At the time my thoughts
were along the lines of:
‘I’m capable of walking without
you having to support me from behind’
Or
‘I think he wants to perve on
my arse’
Or, as stated in Post
1
‘This one’s making sure that I
don’t spread any of my girl germs’
These thoughts stayed with me
right up until, about, age 35. Now, at age 45, I just get out of the elevator regardless
of what others are doing. If I’m in an elevator I’m going somewhere for a reason
and couldn’t be arsed to read too much into a situation.
So, women want their independence
and financial equality, but they also sometimes want a bloke to provide for and
protect them? ‘Oh my God! Women!’ have caused this confusion! Maybe we
just need to see it as an act of politeness that both males and females could
do for others, regardless of gender?
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